Comments on: Questioning Response http://www.eministrynotes.com/2006/08/21/questioning-response/ A place to record notes on effective web ministry Fri, 04 Jul 2008 07:02:54 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Mag http://www.eministrynotes.com/2006/08/21/questioning-response/#comment-21593 Mag Sun, 27 Aug 2006 21:13:43 +0000 http://www.eministrynotes.com/2006/08/21/questioning-response/#comment-21593 I know two people who do the questioning thing who I struggle with feeling they are just "passive leaders". I really want to know their opinion and they seem to just be keeping everyone happy. However, that also seems to be a great leadership skill I have yet to aquire fully enough. Jesus did both. He asked. He taught. He commanded. He "judged". He accused. He didn't say anything at times, but met the need. I know two people who do the questioning thing who I struggle with feeling they are just “passive leaders”. I really want to know their opinion and they seem to just be keeping everyone happy.

However, that also seems to be a great leadership skill I have yet to aquire fully enough.

Jesus did both. He asked. He taught. He commanded. He “judged”. He accused. He didn’t say anything at times, but met the need.

]]> By: Jerry http://www.eministrynotes.com/2006/08/21/questioning-response/#comment-21591 Jerry Sun, 27 Aug 2006 18:26:05 +0000 http://www.eministrynotes.com/2006/08/21/questioning-response/#comment-21591 Hmm. Not much discussion on this one. I think this means there is not much disagreement or that the disagreement is not strong enough to get someone typing. Personally, I agree. Replying with a sensitive, gentle question is a great way to build dialogue. Leading questions, on the other hand, are just like direct statements and come across just as strongly and insensitively. Or, to put it another way: Why do you think there has not yet been much discussion on this one, Rob? How would you feel in a conversation where the other person replied to you mostly with questions? :) Hmm. Not much discussion on this one. I think this means there is not much disagreement or that the disagreement is not strong enough to get someone typing.

Personally, I agree. Replying with a sensitive, gentle question is a great way to build dialogue. Leading questions, on the other hand, are just like direct statements and come across just as strongly and insensitively.

Or, to put it another way:

Why do you think there has not yet been much discussion on this one, Rob?

How would you feel in a conversation where the other person replied to you mostly with questions?
:)

]]> By: Mag http://www.eministrynotes.com/2006/08/21/questioning-response/#comment-21164 Mag Mon, 21 Aug 2006 20:51:45 +0000 http://www.eministrynotes.com/2006/08/21/questioning-response/#comment-21164 Depends on our goal. to get them to respond to us and make us feel good about the conversation...or to point them to God and let him take over. I'd say if they are realizing they are dealing with a truth that is going to expose them and hurt...they are likely to leave, but everytime they are "pricked" it is a seed planted. We are on of many in the trail of those God uses to touch seeking people. People who ask good questions rather than giving answers tend to engage me longer, though...I see your point. Great reminder. Depends on our goal.

to get them to respond to us and make us feel good about the conversation…or to point them to God and let him take over.

I’d say if they are realizing they are dealing with a truth that is going to expose them and hurt…they are likely to leave, but everytime they are “pricked” it is a seed planted. We are on of many in the trail of those God uses to touch seeking people.

People who ask good questions rather than giving answers tend to engage me longer, though…I see your point. Great reminder.

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